After Love Marriage….                                                           What I have seen what I have listen 

I meet many suffering people daily; why would happy people visit me? Only suffering people visit me and share their stories of miseries with me. A sorrow which is constantly occurring is love marriage. Why does the love marriage fail? And why do quarrels begin after love marriage. Readers! As knowledge, information and research is increasing, so are the failures of domestic lives increasing. After all, what is the reason? The reason is that boys and girls get involved in the matters which were earlier dealt by elders. Earlier, the bride was never seen by the groom. He used to see her after marriage when she used to come to the house as his bride and life used to go on pleasantly. Even if a minor quarrel took place, it used to solve in a day or two and life used to get back to normal. Now the condition is that promises are made for living and dying for each other, suicide attempts and at time suicides are committed as well. If a love marriage does take place, the continuous quarrels after marriage, misunderstandings, disturbances and it all impacts the generation as well as houses. The mothers which bring up their sons with much love and affection, those mothers cry and face incurable diseases. Fathers go to the grave with the sorrow of their love. The loss started when the decisions resting with the elders went in the hands of the youngsters. A gentleman was telling me that a movie ‘Mughal-e-Azam’ was released. After watching this movie, many girls left their houses and eloped with their lovers. This is the story of the time when movies were only aired at the cinemas. When homes become cinemas themselves and such thinking builds in the mind of our generation that they have to choose their life-partner, create their own story of lives and deaths then these misunderstandings are imposed by Allah in the form of domestic torment. Let me share an experiment; read it carefully, listen it and tie in the knot of your heart.

The sons and daughters who torture or force their parents for the marriage of their choice; in the end, parents cry and are helpless to accept such marriages. Although, the son might tell everyone that he married by his parent’s choice, Allah gives the torment of unwillingness of his parent’s in the form of misunderstandings and domestic turmoil and his whole life becomes a torture. To find solution to this torture, the couples knock the doors of the court but even then they do not gain contentment and life goes on writhing and wrangling. The strange thing is that only few or maybe one out of these shall admit that this has happened due to disobedience. Otherwise whole life goes by complaining to each other, complaining about the society and era. It is my request to leave the marital matters on your parents; offer 2-nafil, do amaal and pray to Allah in your heart. ‘O Allah! Send down such good decisions from the skies which are best for me. Allah! I do not want my choice; I want your choice which You choose for me.’ Then if you find your life-partner, spend your life with him/her with patience, compromise and forgiveness.